Do You Know Heather Frick
because YOU are worth knowing
plus size fashion
single mom life
August 5, 2017
My friends. Here we are. I’ve been thinking for a while now about creating an outlet to write, to be real, to connect with people, and somehow I came to the conclusion that the best thing to do is just go right ahead and put it all out there in this little space on the internet. It’s a little nerve-wracking, but it is something I feel very called to do. I had a hard time thinking about what to name this space, until, suddenly, I didn’t have a hard time. I knew. My life seems to be like that a lot these days. Flashes of inspiration. I’m not complaining about it.
So, I have this little hashtag: #doyouknowheatherfrick? Some of you may have searched it on Instagram. Some of you might even have the tee shirt. Some of you probably think it’s a little weird and self-serving. Which I get. But here’s the thing, even though it’s my name up there, the importance of those words really has nothing at all to do with me. And it has everything to do with YOU.
In April of 2016, I attended a day-long training for my company in San Francisco. That morning, I saw a dream of mine achieved on a pretty big stage, and to say that I was excited about it would be the understatement of the century. Later that afternoon, as the owner of the company was addressing the audience of about 1500 people about the importance of professional social networking, she said these words: “Do YOU know Heather Frick? Because if you don’t, you should.”
And with that, with those few small little words, a revolution of sorts started in my soul. Because it wasn’t just that this important woman said those words; it was that she said them to 1500 people, and some of those 1500 people picked them up. They repeated them. They saw the humor and the importance of them. It became a thing. They wanted to know me. ME. Heather Frick… who is always the fat friend, never a good enough mom, never a good enough wife, who cannot freaking keep it together to save her damn life. All of these extremely remarkable people thought that I was worth knowing. And that changed everything.
The next little bit of my life took some crazy, scary turns. I went on a lot of trips. I was trying to escape. I wasn’t listening. Then I DID listen. I took my two kids abroad for a month by myself. I came back and I said the words, “I want a divorce.” I realized that I was worth more than the sum of my parts. I realized that I deserved to be really, truly happy. I realized I needed so desperately to surround myself with people who loved me freely and that allowed me to love them freely in return. I realized I needed to honor those deep, dark, creative parts of myself that were not defined by being a mom, a wife, a teacher, a proverbial June Cleaver for the new millennium. So here I am: I am single, I am a mom, I am a business owner. But those things do not define me. I am Heather Frick. I am smart, witty, creative, empathetic, loving, beautiful, and pretty damn fun to be around. I am worth knowing.
So in this space I’ll be exploring my thoughts about becoming authentically me. About love, loneliness, trust, creativity, friendship, and all of the things. Because every time I see the words, “Do you know Heather Frick?” I am reminded that this life I am living, this heartache, this joy, these struggles & victories, and above all, this LOVE- it’s worth knowing. And so is yours.
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